Friendship..

Frankly this is very quotidian and common subject to write.. and many people have many things to say on this topic.. but nobody of us can avoid friendship and may have different perspective abt it than other..
For me friendship is one of the essential relationships for us to survive.. which can easily overlap/supersede any other relationship..
I have read something very interesting about this on some site.. It goes like

There are 3 kinds of friendships
1) Friendship due to significant amount of time spent together.. like school friends, college mates, colleagues at work etc.. Here we dont have choice and more than a choice it is a need to pass that time in a better way..
2) second type is due to sharing common interests.. these friends share common interests and so enjoy the time they spend together.. examples of this type is friends we get at some hobby classes like dance/music class, trekking clubs etc.. here we have freedom to choose our friends.. :)
3) now third category is lil specific.. this is eternal kind of friendship.. here people may share different views, may not spend significant time together but something is present between them which keeps them attached and tied together.. they hv unspoken unexplainable respect and love for each other.. such friendship is rare to find.. These friends may not have anything in common not even language at times..
That article went further like, first two kinds of friendships can fade away with time.. n we may not feel anything abt it after some years or so.. but third kind of friendship is kinda forever :)..

The article had caught my mind, coz we actually experience this all the time.. personally i have experienced all three friendships.. and yes it is difficult to find and maintain third kind of friends.. it takes longer also to establish and realize it.. we cannot control it.. In this fast-food life we tend to overlook such things.. but it keeps happening around us..
When i read this article i realized I actually have such friend who is far different from me, who is far from me, we haven't met for almost 3 years and then also we share excellent telepathy.. :) After realizing this, I felt blessed..

I always had wondered about one thing.. there is something which makes us to feel friendly about somebody in a very first meeting.. and thats why we donot like all the people around us.. many people call it "clicking" or "frequency/wavelength match".. we become friends with such people easily..
It reminds me one sanskrit shlok i have studied in school whose meaning was like " you like some people, u dont like some people.. it is due to the invisible bond u share with that person"..
I dont know if there is any proof to support these theories, but yeah truth is that we all experience it..
Recently i have been encountered with couple of new good friends.. lets see if i get richer :)

Disclaimer: As I said this is my novice attempt at writing.. the matter may not b innovative or interesting.. these are random thoughts.. :)

untitled...

I was in the office wen at around 3o'clock my cell rang. It was my younger bro's friend.
Me: "Hii.. whats's up?"
he: " I got laid off from the office. I will apply for post graduate studies now. Will you help me?"
I was shocked to hear this news. I didn't understand wat to say. Surely the economy slowdown has striked the door next to me.

Its been almost 5-6 years, I know this boy. He is not only friends with my bro but with all of my family members.. Frankly I am not so comfortable to b with friends with younger people.. may be coz i am the eldest in the family with that default dominating attitude "I know better than my youngers!" But yes he has proved it wrong. I have learned so many things from him. He is one real cool dude who can plan his life without being panic or extra cautious. There are many incidents when I really got confidence-boost and inspirations from the discussions with him. By nature, I am an adamant person and generally dont listen to other people easily but I should admit that he has that skill to convince people logically. I still get surprised.. at some point he had actually convinced me to go for MBA!!! Throughout these years he had become like family member of our family. He makes me believe in myself, he makes funny jokes and boosts my younger sister's confidence (who is still studying), he admires my mother's cooking and listens to my father's lectures about life patiently. I really wonder, we always have such people around us whom we really dont count much but they hold quite high importance in our lives.

I have seen him in all the academic phases like his exams, cultural events, his results, grabbing the highest-paying job. As i had never seen him really panic or tensed or with over-serious facial expressions even in his tougher times, I really did not know how to react when he told me abt his layoff. He had called me because somewhere inside he has that unspoken respect for me. As a friend, its my duty now to stand besides him and help him to reach his goals. He is currently superbusy in preparing his application packets so he can apply for coming fall. This incident has changed him from a lazy college pass out fresher to a future seeking man. I could see it from his changed habits like early waking, messaging at midnight.. surely it has hampered him badly.. but I know that watever is happening is for his own good and he will pass this phase.

I always believed in spring theory.. "more u pressurize the spring, more it will jump back". he is going thru that pressurizing phase currently and i am sure all the pain n efforts he is facing now wil lead him to the end of tunnel, where he wil find something better he had never thought of.. I really want to wish him the bright future..

trigger to idle state

Hello,
this is my novice attempt to have my own blog and share my thoughts.. I wonder about Thinking process... Everybody "thinks" something or other ALL the time.. like breathing its unconscious and default process..
I think writing blog will keep the track of what i think.. so this is the place of my own where i can write watever crap i feel :)